Does anyone else have this problem?

I am blessed to have a very helpful husband. I frequently hear other wives who become frustrated with their husband for their lack of help around the house. To be honest, I have never had that problem. Sure, there have been times I’ve been frustrated with him because I felt he wasn’t helping enough, but I can’t think of a time that he has not done at least something.

I spend all week cleaning up and doing things around the house, not to mention homeschooling the kids, grocery shopping, cooking… Some days I do more than others (who doesn’t?) but I always do something. By Saturday, I don’t feel like cleaning house! I do a few things (mainly laundry) but compared to the week, not much. I feel like it is the weekend, and although I don’t ever get a weekend from being a mom- the laundry and dishes are never ending, and we do have to eat- I should still get to treat it somewhat like a weekend.

Gary, on the other hand, likes to spend time on Saturdays cleaning. You’d think working all week (he’s a diesel mechanic) he’d want to spend time on the couch. He does that, but seriously, he cleans too. And not just putting away his laundry that I folded folded for him, but vacuuming, dishes…

So what’s my problem?? I feel so guilty!

As I write this, sitting at the computer, eating Doritos Sweet Spicy Chili Chips (they’re the best!), he is mopping our floors. Yes, mopping. And this after he just finished vacuuming! I feel like I should be up doing something, like cleaning our bathroom (since I only did the kids’ bathroom this week) or washing windows or something. And I worry that he’s thinking the same thing. (There have been days that he has made comments like that, but I’m sure he was only kidding).

So, does anyone else have this problem?? I know… I need to get over it, right? Or should I be up and busy cleaning? What do you think?


  1. soak it up sister!! You got a great guy who is willing to help around the house, lots of wives are not as lucky as us!! He, like my guy, knows how hard it is to mangage the house, so on the “weekends” it’s nice for mom to get a break too… mom’s and dad’s have diffrent breaks. Justin says his break is when he goes to work. πŸ™‚ cus being a full time daddy is too tough!

  2. I’m with Holly, enjoy it! My husband doesn’t lift a finger on the weekends. A FINGER! I’m the stay at home in his eyes and he doesn’t help at all except for the kids when I ask

  3. I feel the exact same way. My husband is very similar to yours as well. I guess I feel guilty bc he has worked all week too.. so…it is hard! Not that I do more, but I justify it with the fact that not only do I watch Graham and take care of the house but I also work part time. Still feel guilty though!

  4. Sounds like you have a great husband! I don’t think my husband has ever mopped the floor but he does help around the house by making dinner, cleaning the dishes, making the kids lunches and much more. I am truely blessed to have a wonderful husband too! Thanks for visiting our blog and best of luck to you in our drawing!

  5. eastonsmom says:

    I feel the same way sometimes, like it must seem as if I’m not doing enough around the house if I’m sitting at all. Although that doesn’t seem to stop me from these moments on the computer πŸ™‚ It’s been kind of strange for me to be at home full time now. I love it and don’t miss working too much, but it’s weird not having a “work week”. My job now is 24 hours a day 7 days a week where as when our husbands go to work they know when their shift ends. I feel like we don’t have that to help us know when it’s ok to take a break. I have those same guilty moments when Aadam does the laundry or something around the house. I’m happy I didn’t have to do it, but then I feel bad since he works so hard all week. So then I feel like I should be doing everything at home. Then again I find it frustrating sometimes that the jobs I have to do everyday never end and just need to be done again tomorrow (cleaning, cooking, laundry)so there are times when I don’t want to do them at all…and have a weekend. I guess we all feel like you do sometimes so I say let Gary know how much you love him and appreciate his help around the house, and then take that time to eat your Dorritos and veg out! (Wow that was a LONG comment!!)

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